
Why it’s so hard to talk about Boarding School
Talking about growing up in a boarding school environment, away from family, friends, home and pets, can be very difficult. There are many reasons why this is.
I help individuals and couples find deeper understanding, resilience, and harmony in their relationships with themselves and others.
I am so glad that you have found your way here.
I imagine things might be challenging for you just now. Perhaps they have been like this for a while. Maybe something has changed recently that has prompted you to seek therapy, either for yourself or your relationship.
I believe that we all need a place where we can tell our story and for it to be truly heard. From here, we can start to make sense of the present, the influences of the past, and what we might want the future to look like.
For me, finding a therapist who was able to support me in this way, was healing, liberating and powerful in equal measures. I want you to have that experience too.
My website is a reflection of me, I’ve written it all myself and hope that it gives you a flavour of who I am. Please get in touch if you have any questions or would like to enquire about therapy with me.
The experience of growing up in a boarding school is complex. Ways children learn to adapt may serve them well in the moment, but survival behaviours, unspoken emotions and relationship challenge can interfere greatly in adult life.
The impact of grief can be immense and overwhelming. It can show up as a tsunami of emotions or even physical pain. It can make day to day decisions feel impossible. Or it could leave you with little energy, fighting to get to sleep or find the motivation to get out of bed in the morning.
Couples seek relationship counselling for lots of different reasons. Sometimes without realising we can become stuck or stagnant within a relationship. Communication feels painful, maybe you don’t trust each other any more or are fed up with being rejected or pushing your partner away
Sometimes life can look rosy to the outside world but inside maybe you are feeling flat, exhausted, low, angry or unfulfilled. Perhaps you feel like your internal world is spinning out of control. Leaving you feeling uncertain and unsettled, unable to relax.
It could be that you are pleasing others all the time, scared of saying what you really want. Or you feel like you’ve lost sight of who you are, unsure of what you truly want from life.
Maybe you are snapping at the people around you, constantly pushing people away and yet feeling so lonely. Unsure of where you belong but feeling like you have to fix it on your own.
Perhaps you dread night times or weekends because relaxation or sleep seem so far away and keeping busy seems like the only option.
You might want to feel calmer and be more able to relax. To feel more at peace in your own mind and body.
It could be that your relationship is suffering. You might be arguing constantly or feeling more like room mates than lovers. Perhaps there’s been an affair or betrayal of some kind and trust is difficult. You just want the spark back, to feel less stuck and more connected.
Therapy offers a consistent, protected oasis in our ever busy and fast changing world. A place of calm where you can find comfort in sharing your story, nurturing connection, peace, and understanding.
I’m Sarah, an accredited Counsellor, based in the heart of Lancashire, near Chorley. I offer trauma informed therapy that is tailored to your unique needs and circumstances. We can meet online via Zoom or in person from my calm, comfortable and accessible room near Chorley.
I am a warm, caring, calm and down to earth person. I am committed to providing you with a soothing and confidential environment, where you are safe to say the things you are really thinking, free from judgement and worry about upsetting or not pleasing someone. A place where you can begin to heal.
I’m compassionate, yet able to gently challenge, to help you look at things from a different perspective. I’m not here to tell you what to do, but I will enable you to take a step back, untangle your thoughts and see things more clearly.
The first few steps to therapy can be hard. Or at least it was for me! Taking the initial step of making contact can be scary, embarrassing or bring a sense of failure. I remember clearly picking up the phone and not dialling the number, starting to type an email and closing the laptop instead!
Each time convincing myself that things weren’t that bad or that other people’s problems were bigger or worse than mine. A part of me was telling me to stop complaining and just get on with it but deep down I knew that I needed to make the call or send the email.
I’m so glad that I did, because it helped me to become the person that I am today. My invitation to you is to take the next step when you feel ready to.
Seeking help isn’t a sign of weakness; it’s a step of strength toward healing and growth
I would love to meet with you for an introductory call (either by phone or by zoom), to see if the way that I work might be a good fit for you.
Typically an introductory call lasts around 20 minutes, I will ask you about what has brought you to search for a therapist, what’s been happening for you recently and for a little background. It’s really an opportunity for us to get to know each other, for you can ask any questions you might have.
There is no obligation to start therapy with me but if we do both feel that we would work well together and our diaries match up, we can arrange our first session together.
Talking about growing up in a boarding school environment, away from family, friends, home and pets, can be very difficult. There are many reasons why this is.
Online counselling can appeal for lots of different reasons. Being able to see a counsellor online can open the possibility of healing for people
Boundaries and people pleasers People pleasers consistently put the needs of other people ahead of thier own. When we give to others without a second
If you would like to enquire about therapy with me and / or arrange an introductory call, please fill out the form below.
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