Hello and welcome, 

You have taken the first step to finding the peace of mind that you are searching for by finding your way here,  you are very welcome. 

Please have a look around and get in touch if I can help answer any questions you might have.  

My own experience of being truly seen, heard, and validated by a counsellor was both healing, liberating and powerful in equal measures.  For the first time,  I realised that I wasn’t alone, and I didn’t have to face pain from the past or difficult situations in the present on my own, 

Counselling became a life changing foundation which I could build upon and become me.

I truly want this for you too.  

 

How things might be for you just now

Sometimes life can look rosey to the outside world but inside maybe you are feeling flat, exhausted, low, angry or unfulfilled.   Perhaps you feel like your internal world is spinning out of control and it feels like there is little light at the end of the tunnel.  Leaving you feeling uncertain and unsettled, unable to rest or relax fully. 

Often this leads us to realise that we’ve lost sight of who we are, unsure of what makes us tick or what we truly want from life. 

Maybe you are snapping at the people around you, constantly in a cycle of pushing people away and yet feeling so lonely, unsure of where you belong.  Perhaps you dread night times or weekends because relaxation or sleep seem so far away.  

It could be that you are pleasing others all the time, scared of saying what you really want.  Maybe you aren’t even sure what it is you truly  want in the first place!  

Perhaps you want to feel calmer, be more able to relax and rebuild relationships with those around you, to feel more at peace in your own mind and body, better connected with those around you.  

Maybe now is the right time for you to begin to heal.  Therapy can help. 

Different reasons why people come to see me

People come to see me for lots of different reasons, below are some particular reasons why people come to see me.    

Grief and Loss 

When we experience a bereavement or loss of any kind it can leave us feeling all over the place, our emotions can cloud our thoughts, making our day to day life difficult. Or it could leave you with little energy, fighting to get to sleep or find the motivation to get out of bed in the morning.  Equally it can lead us to fill our time with so much to prevent us from thinking or feeling anything at all.  

The way that we grieve is deeply personal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, just your way. Counselling can help you make sense of your loss, connect with your memories in a meaningful way and figure out where you go from here.  

Grief and Loss Counselling Online and Chorley
Boarding School Recovery Therapy Online and Chorley

Boarding School Recovery

Going to boarding school as a child means that we find ways to survive in a strange world, away from the people, pets and places we love. This can leave us with a feeling of not quite belonging anywhere, uneasy in intimate relationships or feeling ashamed, unworthy or unlovable. This may be what’s going on inside but on the outside many ex-boarders present as being extremely confident, successful and driven.

I’ve helped ex-boarders, their partners and families find a way to begin to connect with their emotions, recognise where patterns of behaviour have come from, and discover who they are now. Supporting them to develop healthier relationships with themselves and the people around them.

Relationship Counselling

Couples seek relationship counselling for lots of different reasons. Sometimes without realising we can become stuck or stagnant within a relationship. Busy with day to day life or overwhelmed by the effects of having children, illness, bereavement or money worries for example. Maybe the spark has gone or you just aren’t communicating or perhaps trust is an issue.

I will help you to identify clearly the challenges or problems you are facing in your relationship. Enable you to consider the best way for you to move forward and what steps you want to take to make this happen.

Relationship Counselling Online and Chorley
Sarah Tinsley Registered BACP Counsellor and Therapist Online and Chorley

Meet Sarah

I’m Sarah, a registered Counsellor, based in the heart of Lancashire, near Chorley.  I offer counselling online via Zoom or in person from my calm, comfortable and accessible room near Chorley. 

I am a warm, caring, calm and down to earth person. I am committed to providing you with a soothing space, where you are free to say the things you are really thinking, free from judgement and worry about upsetting or not pleasing someone.  A place where you can truly be honest with yourself and begin to heal. 

I’m kind, yet able to gently challenge, to help you look at things from a different perspective.  I’m not here to tell you what to do, but I will enable you to take a step back, untangle your thoughts and see things more clearly.  

Making the first contact

I have experienced counselling myself and I understand that taking the initial step of making contact can be scary, embarrassing or bring a sense of failure. 

I remember clearly picking up the phone and not dialling the number, starting to type an email and closing the laptop instead!   Each time I convinced myself that things weren’t that bad or that other people’s problems were bigger or worse than mine.  

A part of me was telling me to stop complaining and just get on with it but deep down I knew that I needed to make the call or send the email.  I’m so glad that I did, because it helped me to become the person that I am today. 

Research shows that on average, adults wait between 3 and 4 years before reaching out for help.    Personally I suspect it’s longer than this but either way, that’s a huge length of time to spend feeling sad, low, empty, numb, angry or stuck when it doesn’t have to be like this. 

My invitation to you is to take the next step when you feel ready to.  

The next step

I invite you to arrange an introductory call (either by phone or by zoom).  This call will last about 20 minutes and will give us the chance to get to know each other.  You can ask any questions you might have and I can explain a little about how I work.    This will help you decide whether therapy feels right for you and whether or not you feel comfortable with me. 

From there, if it feels for both of us that we would be a good fit and our diaries work, we can arrange for an initial session together.    I will explain this more during the introductory call.  

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